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For parents of children with autism, managing their child’s needs can often feel like a constant game of catch-up. Just as they come to terms with their child’s diagnosis, they are faced with the challenge of identifying the right therapies. Before long, their child may begin to exhibit difficult behaviours that leave them feeling confused and overwhelmed. These behaviours can range from throwing objects like phones out of windows to engaging in repetitive self-harming actions.
Desperate internet searches yield countless, often alarming, explanations, but few solutions. Seeking advice from autism parent support groups offers some initial hope, only to become overwhelming when too many differing suggestions emerge. Parents are left wondering which approach is correct, and the struggle to balance work, family, and managing challenging behaviours feels like too much to handle.
Building a Strong Relationship
The first step in managing a child with autism is to focus on building a strong relationship between parent and child. The earlier this foundation is laid, the better. Strengthening this bond involves spending quality time together, especially during play or in moments where the child seeks comfort and security. Without a strong connection, it can be difficult to address behaviour issues without triggering emotional outbursts or damaging the parent-child relationship. On the other hand, when the bond is strong, correcting behaviours becomes a more manageable process.
Understanding Challenging Behaviours
The next crucial step is understanding your child’s challenging behaviours. Ask yourself: What is my child trying to seek or avoid through their behaviour? Many children with autism have sensitive or underdeveloped sensory processing systems. They may experience sensory inputs like sounds, light, or physical sensations more intensely and struggle to process them effectively. Depending on their sensory profile, a child may seek certain inputs to feel more regulated or avoid others when overwhelmed.
These sensory challenges are often coupled with emotional experiences, which can further strain a child’s ability to regulate themselves. When parents interfere with this process, children may develop challenging behaviours as a way to regain balance. Once parents grasp the sensory and emotional triggers behind their child’s actions, it becomes clear that some behaviours are not entirely within the child’s control. Supporting their emotional and sensory needs can lead to a significant reduction in challenging behaviours.
Creating Structure and Routine
It is also essential to develop and manage a structured daily routine for children with autism. Individuals with autism thrive on predictable, consistent activities. A well-organized schedule, with clear cues (such as visual aids, timers, or schedules), can significantly reduce challenging behaviours. Conversely, a lack of structure—chaotic or unorganized routines with no clear start or end to activities—can lead to increased behavioural challenges.
A balanced routine should include a mix of indoor and outdoor activities, exercise, rest, learning, and daily living skills. Consistency and predictability are key in helping children feel more in control and less prone to acting out.
Organizing the Home Environment
Finally, it’s important to organize the home environment in a way that minimizes clutter and clearly designates areas for specific activities—such as eating, learning, playing, and resting. When children with autism can easily navigate to the appropriate spaces for each activity, the likelihood of challenging behaviours decreases.
Seeking Professional Support
Many parents may have a general idea of when their child struggles the most or what triggers certain behaviours. However, working with professionals—such as psychologists or your child’s teachers—can be invaluable in identifying the root causes of these behaviours. Our own biases can sometimes cloud our understanding of our child’s needs, which is why collaborating with professionals experienced in problem-solving and behaviour management for autism is so critical. With their support, parents can develop accurate hypotheses about their child’s behaviours and implement effective strategies to address them early on.
At Private Space Medical, we understand the complexities of raising a child with autism. You don’t have to face these challenges alone. Our team of experienced professionals is here to help you better understand and manage your child’s behaviours. Together, we can build effective strategies that make a lasting difference in your child’s life. Contact us today for a consultation, and let us support you on this journey toward a more peaceful and balanced family life.
Ryan Huang
Visiting Educational Psychologist
Visiting Educational Psychologist