As therapists, we are not immune to the impact of depression on our loved ones. When a friend is struggling with depression, it can be difficult to know how best to support them. Here are some meaningful ways to help during this challenging time.
Be a Witness to Their Past
When depression takes hold, your friend may struggle to remember who they used to be. Be a witness to their past by reminding them of their strengths, passions, and accomplishments. Share stories and memories that highlight their resilience and capabilities—this can help them reconnect with their identity and sense of purpose.
Offer a Glimpse of a Depression-Free Life
Depression can make it hard for your friend to imagine life without it. Gently remind them of what life could be like beyond their current struggles. Share personal experiences or stories of others who have overcome depression. This can help them see that hope and recovery are possible.
Recognize That Your Friend Is Still There
Depression can alter a person’s behaviour, thoughts, and emotions, but it doesn’t define who they are. Remember that your friend is still the same person, even if they are struggling to cope. Avoid making assumptions or judgments about their behaviour, and instead, focus on offering empathy and support.
Listen Without Trying to Fix
One of the most valuable things you can offer is a listening ear. Resist the urge to provide solutions or “fix” their problems. Instead, practice active and empathetic listening. Sometimes, a person with depression just needs their feelings to be validated and their pain acknowledged.
Provide Hope When It’s Hard to Find
Depression can make it difficult for your friend to feel hopeful about the future. As a supportive friend, you can offer hope when they struggle to see it. Remind them of their strengths, share stories of resilience, and encourage small steps toward recovery.
Encourage Professional Help
While your support is invaluable, it’s important to encourage your friend to seek professional help. Therapy can equip them with the tools and strategies needed to manage depression. Due to stigma or misunderstanding, they may be hesitant or take time to warm up to the idea. Be patient, understanding, and supportive as they navigate this process.
Take Care of Yourself Too
Supporting a friend with depression can be emotionally demanding, so it’s essential to look after yourself as well. Recognize the limits of your role and seek help if you start feeling overwhelmed. Prioritize self-care, engage in activities that nourish your well-being, and reach out for support when needed.
Your support and understanding can be a powerful source of comfort and encouragement for your friend as they face depression. While recovery takes time, effort, and patience, with a strong support system in place, they can heal, grow, and ultimately thrive.
If you or someone you care about is struggling with depression, compassionate and professional support can make a difference. Our experienced psychiatrists and psychologists at Private Space Medical are here to help. Reach out when you're ready—we're here to support your journey to healing.
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Eve Teo
Principal Therapist
Principal Therapist
